Personal Development

Does it feel like life is zoom past at an alarming rate?  Like you are at maximum capacity already.   Or maybe you are OVER capacity!?  You feel frazzled, stressed, burnt out.  And there is no sign of it slowing down.  Maybe you’ll get a day or two between Christmas and the New Year for a…

It’s the power of listening.  I have known for a while that the greatest gift I have to give my clients is the space to talk and be truly heard.  It’s something that I love to do and am naturally good at.  Just holding the space for someone and warmly listening while they talk about…

A clear idea of who you are and how you want to show up that day?  Or do you just sort of get up and get on with it? I first came up with the idea of Living Intentionally as a kind of antithesis to arbitrary goal setting at the beginning of the year.  Don’t…

When we can accept, rather than resist, change is possible. But what does acceptance really mean?  Does it mean just taking things as they are and being defeated, hopeless and lethargic?  Absolutely not.  It’s a subtle, but very important energy shift.     When we are not accepting things as they are, we are experiencing resistance. …

Burnout – the modern epidemic? I am firmly touching wood whilst declaring that I have never experienced burn out, but the number of people who are telling me that they have is growing, so I thought it would be worth exploring what it is and how to prevent it in a blog article here: What…

How many times have you heard that you need to be organised to get ahead?!  Are you getting Time Management tools advertised to you as you navigate your newsfeeds?!  It’s a topic that comes up often in my coaching world!  Whether I am being asked to present on it to a group, or if it’s…

When I first set out on my journey to become a life coach, I thought that the primary reason people would choose to work with me would be in order to create a life that they love. I expected that that would be through changing their career, or making other significant changes in their personal…

Self doubting thoughts pop into your head, just like any other randomly occurring thoughts are capable of doing.  Like “I wonder what I’d eat for breakfast if I did Keto?” or “I could just walk out of the shop with this, no one would notice” or “My name is low down in the alphabet”. I…

Wellbeing – the sense of ‘being’ within which wellness is always present. Why Wellbeing? Due to increased poor mental and emotional health, as well as stress-related illnesses, costing employers and the NHS a lot of money, wellbeing has been brought to the forefront of most of our minds.  We are now regularly being encouraged to…

Why you could come to me when you might otherwise go to a counsellor. Coach, not a counsellor First, let me start by being clear that I am not a counsellor.  My approach is very different to any style of counselling (or coaching!) you may have previously experienced.  Yet it is relevant to consider using…

How mundane it would be, if everything you wanted just popped into your life, with ease, every time. I often write articles about how we don’t need anything to be a particular way, for us to experience happiness.  There aren’t a binary set of conditions that if we had, we’d feel good all the time. …

And the absence of stress comes from a change in understanding, not from changed behaviours or conditions. The Misunderstanding Like love, true wellbeing is unconditional.  Yet when it comes to both love and wellbeing, society has taught us to expect certain conditions.  We’ve been taught how much sleep we need, how many hours of work…

This understanding of life can have implications for those experiencing anxiety. With kind permission from Bradley, I’m sharing his story about how our work together has made a significant difference to his anxiety. When Bradley came to see me, his initial thought was that he needed me to help him with his business.  At the…

Here’s a question for you to consider, hand on heart. Are you seeking satisfaction anywhere in your life?  In your work, your relationships, family, social life, with your body, your health?  Anywhere at all? Do want to tweak, change and improve certain areas, believing that you’ll be happier when you do? How’s that working out…

New Years Resolutions are famous for falling by the wayside come February/March. The gym membership that gets used in January, then not so much month on month. The tidy house that within a few months is back to where it was before. The resolve to stop smoking, that becomes “a cheeky one” here and there,…

Last week we began by exploring the body and saw how the essence of us does not appear to live within the body. (If you missed that blog post you can find it here).  We’re going to explore this a bit further today.   Human Be-ing  Did you know that neuroscientists have worked hard to…

The term “life changing” can be so emotive. A life-changing injury.  A life-changing opportunity.  Having children will change your life.  Being a victim of a crime or trauma is life-changing.  A chance encounter with a stranger could change your life.  And so on and so forth. So many assertions on how our lives are/could be…

Why self-care isn’t as caring as it appears. At the moment my social media feeds are full to bursting with articles and advertisements on the importance of self-care.  These articles go into how important it is to look after yourself and what could happen if you don’t, before eventually going into ideas of different things…

WTF?  A coach, writing an article entitled “Don’t follow your dreams?”  What next, a nutritionist telling you to eat processed food? The coaching world is absolutely choc-a-bloc with articles and courses on how to smash your goals, make your dreams come true and change your world.  All of them look so enticing!  I mean, to…

Not a day goes by when there isn’t fodder available for the ego to reinforce itself with.   Whether that’s in the form of apparently inspiring quotations about what we can achieve.  In references made which connect certain events with certain feelings, as if there is a direct causal link.  Whether it’s in a conversation…

Life isn’t always going to match up to our expectations. . . This article is for anyone who has a mental list of things that haven’t quite gone to plan, or aren’t quite the way you want them.  There might only be one broken dream on the list, but if it’s a burden you are…

Pause for a moment and consider how much of your behaviour is driven by some kind of attempt to get life right.  Whatever right means to you.  Whatever that behaviour may be.  Healthy eating, treating yourself, exercising, relaxing, spending adequate time socialising, addressing your partner’s behaviour with him/her, striving to do a good job at…

What does finding yourself really mean? Does it mean working out what your passion is?  Finding a special groove for yourself in the world?  Deciding your next career move?  Working out how to behave in certain situations?  Finding some rules to live life by? Not in my book. Finding yourself means not resisting.  It means…

For around a decade now I have been on a very very ordinary spiritual journey. When we speak of spirituality, we might imagine incense burning, chanting, communicating with deceased relatives or other worldly beings, casting aside all possessions and going on a quest to India.  Well, while I have nothing against any of those things,…